Relationships show us where we need to grow.
So thank all the great teachers (the ones who caused you the most angst) in your life!
Your relationships show you where you need to grow and how you are viewing yourself.
If you stop pointing your finger at the other person and saying it is their fault you
are not happy, you will gain great knowledge about yourself.
Because the bottom line is we are responsible for creating our situations
and what shows up is a reflection of what is going on inside of us,
how we are feeling about ourselves and our world.
Stay with me here. I know most of you don’t want to hear “I’m responsible”.
Give me a minute and finish reading and then go out and see what you can create for yourself.
Let me give you an example by using the metaphor of a car:
If you’re showing up in your world feeling like a mediocre & inexpensive vehicle, like a KIA,
people will treat you as you see yourself, not of great value, but useful.
Nothing wrong with that if that is what you really want. But,
most people complain about not being treated the way they
want to be treated; “SPECIAL=LOVED”. Or they feel invisible.
If you show up like a Ferrari knowing you are interesting, fun, sporty, sexy, valuable and worthy=
others who admire and respect that will be attracted to you (friends, job offers, situations, opportunities…)
So you have to think about, what do I want to attract into my life and who am I aspiring to BE?
If you were to want to fall in love with someone like your ideal version of yourself what
characteristics/traits/skills/attitudes/values would you have?
Take time and write those out.
It is a roadmap for you to follow for your personal growth.
#1 Issue:
Loving yourself=other’s loving you.
It all starts with you and your main purpose in this life is to fall deeply in love with yourself-unconditionally.
When you love yourself you know your worth and live your truth.
Most people are trying to get other people to love them, so they will feel worthy or good enough to have, be or do what they want.
It is the other way around.
Fall in love with yourself and you will experience love & happiness everywhere.
If you use the Ferrari car as a metaphor for LOVING yourself:
You would know & treat yourself with top notch respect & love,
(aspire for excellence, take great care of your mind-body-spirit, wouldn’t sacrifice your well-being-get drunk-over eat, settle for less in work or money, you’d create great value, be grateful and loving, live in uncluttered & nurturing environments…)
You’d take special interest in what you put in and on your body
(knowledge, philosophy, beliefs, stress-worry, drugs, food, sex, thoughts, media…)
You’d be picky about who can touch your body
(watching who you spend time with neg/postive energy, sexual partners, body workers, health practitioners…)
Know your worth and what it takes to keep you at your best
(time for self improvement+mind-body-spirit, financial success- savings-security-investing, health-vital-energetic, excitement, challenges that help you grow, …)
Ask yourself:
Who do you want to become? and Start Being who you want to become as you discover it moment to moment.
It is not who you are now that determines your future…
it is the journey of who you are choosing to become now that determines your next moment on your life’s journey!
As a Ferrari, you are continuously awake/conscious and making choices
to manage the drive/your life at it’s BEST.
As a KIA driver, you fall asleep/go unconscious because the drive doesn’t demand as
much out of you, so you get comfortable at maintaining minimal effort and getting mediocre results.
You have to be vigilant in managing your life in all areas and with excitement about what you are creating!
WOW! What an adventurous drive! Follow Your Passions!
Pick a destination, map out land marks, doing your inner work along the way and go for it!
FYI: This is a life time process-the becoming, so enjoy it by staying awake!
